Thursday, July 12, 2018
Slutever: Dispatches from a Sexually Autonomous Woman in a Post-Shame World Paperback – February 6, 2018 by Karley Sciortino ( Grand Central Publishing)
I loved Slutever. Irreverent, warm, funny, thoughtful, provocative, and comforting, Karley Sciortino approaches her subjects with a perfect mix of frankness and compassion. She grants access to worlds and experiences most of us are too timid, or repressed, (or averse to sexual kidnapping) to have ever encountered on our own. It feels like a sexual safari, a manifesto, and a comedic memoir rolled into one. I read it in a single sitting. I was particularly fond of the sections about the dangers of self victimization and her account of her childhood, but start to the finish it's a compelling, entertaining read. It also makes you feel more at home in your own sexuality and reassures you that whatever kinky fantasies you harbor, your sexual desires are to be celebrated and laughed at and ferociously enjoyed. Get this book. Slut it up.
"Slut" is a great word. It just sounds perfect-so sharp and clear and beautiful. It's one of those satisfying four letter words, like cunt and fuck. Slut also happens to be an anagram for lust, which is one of those divine coincidences that makes you wonder if God actually exists.
We're lucky that slut is such a great word, because it's safe to say that almost every woman will be called a slut at least once in her lifetime. Despite a slowly shifting sexual double standard, it's still taboo to be a woman who's openly sexual-let alone one who sleeps around. Now Vogue columnist Karley Sciortino is on a mission to reclaim the word "slut" to represent a person who seeks out visceral experiences through sex, and who isn't ashamed about it. Sluts are special. Sluts are radical. And sluts are skilled at time management, because they can handle multiple partners on rotation, plus their jobs and their blogs and their beauty routines. Not everyone is qualified for this coveted position.
SLUTEVER is a call-to-arms, a confessional memoir, a slut manifesto, as told by a sex-radical hedonist in a pink PVC mini dress. It's a thoughtful, first-person account of a modern woman, navigating sex, love, casual hookups, open relationships,, bisexuality, BDSM, breakups, sex work, sex parties, and the power of sexual agency, as told from the front lines.